Myth 1: Must Have ‘Weird’ Fetish

A fetish is a specific act, way, or toy that helps heighten your pleasure. Weird is totally subjective. If you define ‘weird’ as nothing more than something out of the main stream, weird loses the negative stigma attached. Maybe you like to eat fried pigs feet or enjoy a 10 mile run on your day off. That brings pleasure to you, but it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. They may prefer a day on the couch or sipping coffee for a few hours alone. The point is, you don’t know what brings you pleasure until you try it.

Myth 2: Must Be Cruel and Sadistic

Based on stereotypes, it may seem the dominator takes control and punishes the submissive lover on whim. In actuality, the submissive partner places their trust with the dominant partner to not abuse the power freely given up. You can look at it as the most simplistic form of the command and reward system. The dominant lover guides the submissive on how to pleasure and lavishes them with attention for a job well done. If the submissive fails or refuses to fulfill the dominant’s request, punishments may be given.

There are two things to keep in mind regarding this power play. Most couples will use a safe word, as an example ‘Oklahoma’. If the submissive refuses to do something for the purposes of defying the dominant partner, they will say no, knowing that a punishment will result. If the submissive refuses to do something because they are not comfortable with the action or situation, they will use the safe word, saying ‘Oklahoma’. This way the dominator knows to move on to something else with no further punishment given to the submissive.

The other thing to keep in mind is punishment does not always mean pain. Punishment with bondage and BDSM can mean lashes with a whip or being tied up, but it can also mean lack of attention, confiscation of toys, withholding further pleasure, etc. Usually the punishments are discussed and agreed upon before playing begins.

Myth 3: The Submissive Has No Say

Both partners always have a say, otherwise it could be looked at as abuse. Usually a discussion of what is expected and comfort zones happen prior to playing so the submissive can fully enjoy being in the non-dominant position. This is your body and your pleasure. Both partners should always respect the comfort level and work within those guidelines. It may not work out well to just tie your partner up and act out your fantasies with no discussion beforehand of the expectations and guidelines of pleasure.

Myth 4: Humiliation Is a Must

There are people who enjoy being humiliated. They want to feel demeaned and called every derogatory name in the book. Usually this type of play is more psychological and sexual engagement doesn’t take place.

For most lovers taking part in the humiliation aspect of BDSM, it is a much milder form of expression. Calling the submissive a naughty little boy/girl, puppy, slave, or toy are all softer in approach and imply a position of power without degrading your lover.

Myth 5: Once You Submit, You Can Never Dominate

A common misconception between partners looking to experiment in bondage and BDSM is that one always should be dominant and the other should always be submissive. Between lovers it does not have to be that way. One night you can be in control and the next you submit to your partner. It can even switch during the same night. This is why a discussion prior to playing is so beneficial.

Myth 6: BDSM is a Form of Therapy

This can be the case for someone who has been abused in the past, but for the purposes of play between lovers this is not something you should dabble in. Leave the psychology to the professionals. You should always discuss potential triggers that could arise from BDSM prior to playing and avoid those.

Yes, it’s safe to assume that as soon as men recognised another cavity that could be used, they were off and experimenting.  While it’s presumable to believe that homosexuals introduced anal sex into the public consciousness, there is no hard proof of such.  (Excuse the pun)  Today, more heterosexuals are enjoying the practice, and this is enticing newcomers to try it out as well.

Is the Anus a Sexual Organ?

While some anal excitement is mental, there is some evidence suggesting that the anus and the rectum have many nerve endings, which could theoretically make thrusting (or oral stimulation) pleasurable for the receiver as well as the giver.  The most sensitive area is the sphincter muscle, though in men there is the additional hotspot of the prostate, which is next to the rectum accessible through the anal wall.  What about female response to anal sex?  There are a number of theories as to why some women like anal stimulation, including “clitoral legs” that stretch all the way back to the anus, indirect G-spot stimulation, the cul-de-sac spot, the recto-uterine spot and so on.  No one knows for sure, and not all women respond sexually to the practice.

Nevertheless, all women can agree on one thing: if anal sex is not done right, it hurts like hell!  Above all else, remember that the anal sphincter has very delicate tissue that can easily tear if thrusting is too rough.  In order to minimise the risk of pain and even long-lasting injury follow these tips:

 1. Make sure both you and your partner are 100% clean.

Go to the bathroom, bathe, and if possible, use an anal douche.  This will protect both partners from infection.  NEVER have vaginal intercourse after anal intercourse without washing.

 2. Use LOTS of lube.

The anus does not naturally lubricate and the rectal mucous membrane is hardly comparable to vaginal wetness.  Hard and dry thrusting is a sure-thing pain in the, well, you know, and could even resulting in tearing.  NEVER have anal sex without lubricant.  In addition, you are also advised to use a condom for penetration, as the soft yet hard-to-tear material protects against germs, bacteria, etc.

 3. Take it slow.

Never thrust hard or fast when trying anal for the first time.  In fact, most lovers prefer to insert a (lubricated) finger or a toy first, so they can get used to the unique feeling of being penetrated in a highly sensitive area.  A butt plug is a toy that can help lovers become used to the sensation without fear of injury.

 4. Properly prepare the anus so that your internal muscles relax.

This involves rubbing the outside of the anus in a gentle fashion, and in a circular motion.  Do not penetrate until you can feel the muscles relax.  Do not buy into that “push out” nonsense.  This produces only a moderate change; the anus must be gradually opened rather than suddenly “attacked.”

 5. Communicate and listen.

Remember, doing anal right depends on communication.  If the thrusting is hurting too much, the other partner must stop.

There’s no need to be too “anal” about anal.  However, following the rules is a must.

Why We Love the Rabbit Vibrator

This is one of the most innovative sex toys to ever be released, as it improved substantially upon the traditional missile-shaped vibrator. This toy does vibrate as usual, but most modern Rabbit toys actually rotate as well. The toy concentrates vibrating power on two specific areas: clitoral stimulation and vaginal stimulation. The phallus (some more realistic than others) enters the vagina while the above stimulator attached to the shaft presses against a woman’s clitoris. These vibrating motors work at the same time, providing a woman simultaneous pleasure. As a gimmick, the stimulator part is often shaped like a pair of rabbit ears.

The toy can just as easily be used for partner sex as well as self-stimulation. The original Jack Rabbit toy was created by California Exotic Novelties. However, many companies have since copied the design and put their own spin on the toy, using dolphins, mermaids and a variety of other gimmicks. What these toys have in common is the dual stimulation feature, as well as the jelly-like substance that coats the phallic shaft. This material can be anything from silicone to rubber, vinyl, or latex. Regardless of the material, it is much easier to clean than most other sex toys which have pores; this does not have pores and no foreign materials can be absorbed.

The Rabbit Vibrator is a Socially Acceptable Choice!

The Rabbit has become an especially popular and “chic” sex toy after the hit show Sex and the City featured it (the “Rabbit Pearl” specifically) in an episode. Modern women, who made up most of the show’s viewers, then realized that they had sexual needs and that if Samantha and Carrie could do it, there was no social “stigma” to worry about. The 1990s and 2000 eras have been all about embracing one’s body, and one’s own right to pleasure. How relieved we are that we can openly buy sex toys today without causing community controversy!

Er, did we say buy openly? Okay, okay, you got us. A lot of women and couples are not daring enough to buy a sex toy in person, smiling at the cashier without the least bit of embarrassment. Thank god for online stores!

Why all you need to do to order one of Kinky Minx’s large Rabbit vibrator selections is fill out an online form and you will get the toy shipped to you in just a few days. Speaking of variety, we aim to offer some of the best Rabbit vibrators that have ever been built, from the ultra-classy and discreet Lelo Soraya line, to the penis shaped Limited Edition Rabbit by Seven Creations, to the multispeed iVibe. You can also find newer rabbits that offer anal tickling, tilted shafts (for better G-spot reach) and other unique features.

Go at it like rabbits using this brilliantly conceived vibrator toy!

The Alien Fleshlight’s Innovative Design

Thankfully, those horny guys at Fleshlight had the same idea and created their own Alien Fleshlight product, which was packaged along with an adults-only parody of the Avatar film entitled This Ain’t Avatar XXX 3D. What is truly unique about the Alien Fleshlight is the fact that it looks and feels very different than the usual Fleshlight lineup. Unlike all the other Fleshlights, including their new October lineup of “Frankenstein and Dracula” inspired sleeves, this Fleshlight is blue in appearance and actually has two clitorises. Design wise, it is truly the most innovative option the company offers. Of course, what really matters is the internal structure of the piece, as this is Fleshlight’s claim to fame.

Unlike all the traditional Fleshlights, (not counting the Fleshlight Porn Star line) this Fleshlight does not simply have one texture in its canal. It actually combined three of the company’s most popular textures for an “out of this world” sensation. The first part of the canal consists of the swirling Vortex texture, followed by the Lotus node, which was popularized in the company’s Fleshlight Porn Star line. The sleeve ends with the company’s “toughest” texture to survive: the STU (Stamina Training Unit).

Using the Alien Fleshlight for the First Time

Remember as with all Fleshlight products, to lube yourself and the toy generously in order to avoid uncomfortable thrusting. After you’re done, clean the Fleshlight with warm water but WITHOUT soap. (Alcohol can be used periodically as a cleanser) Users are very enthusiastic about the Alien Fleshlight, stating that its sleeve is among the most intense of any Fleshlight model. The only criticism Fleshlight fans provide is that the opening tends to be looser than most other Fleshlights, which are generally tighter in the entry. Men who are small to average size may not be able to reach the full end sleeve, so if you desire to feel the complete Alien Fleshlight canal, use the sleeve in reverse.

This sex toy lets you “boldly go where no man has gone before”, as you can experience sex in space, with some of the most advanced alien females in the galaxy. It’s a great toy for single men, as well as married men, since wives are not as threatened with an alien vagina as, say, some of Fleshlight’s other delicacies like “Tera Patrick's Butt.”

Using the new Alien Fleshy is like being propositioned by a sultry, scantily-clad, blue-skinned alien that wants your sperm for mysterious and probably sinister purposes!

Hey, just think what Captain Kirk would have done if presented with this temptation. Strike first and think later! Enjoy!

Sex scenes in the movies have the right idea. Usually the hungry man goes straight for the woman’s breasts in a moment of unrestrained passion. Of course, then he quickly loses interest and goes in for the win. He is missing out on a great opportunity—as are the many men out there who learn about sex from the movies. The breasts are actually considered one of the nine “erogenous zones” making them centres for pleasure.

Why Breasts Are Sensitive

The erogenous zones are areas of the body that have heightened sensitivity. Stimulating these hot spots can result in greater sexual excitement and more powerful orgasms. Scientifically speaking, the reason why the breasts are so sensitive is because of Golgi-Mazzoni, Vater-Pacini and genital corpuscles located in the areola and nipple. There are also higher concentrations of nerve endings in the breasts as well as sensitive nerve tissue in the muscle and ducts. When a woman’s nipples are aroused chemical changes occur. Higher levels of oxytocin and prolactin are produced and this has a significant effect on a woman’s genital area. Now you know the sciencey part!

In fact, Dr. Barry Komisaruk representing Rutgers University conducted a study of 11 women and their brain activity, after self-stimulation. Fondling the nipples actually activated the same brain activity as vaginal and clitoral stimulation. The May 2006 issue of The Journal of Sexual Medicine uncovered similar findings; their study concluded that 82% of women stated that breast stimulation enhanced their sexual satisfaction. All of this runs contrary to some of the assumptions made by sex researcher Alfred Kinsey who suggested that breast stimulation was overestimated. Guys, I hope you’re paying attention!

Make Breasts Part of Foreplay

Sex counsellors often advise lovers to prolong the foreplay, which often includes breast stimulation, before proceeding on to oral sex or penetration. More than a few women have actually reported having breast orgasms! Indeed, the current consensus in sexology research is that orgasms are mental processes, not strictly related to bodily functions. If you’re interested in giving your woman multiples then by all means, try to stimulate her all over the body, focusing on each of those erogenous zones. Aim to increase the foreplay, because you’re not merely postponing sexual activity—this is a form of sex! Besides, paying more attention to a woman’s breasts in love play can help extend your overall lovemaking time, making staying power less of an issue.

The sexual potential of breasts and nipples are one reason why sex toy makers often feature breast toys. These can range from subtle and innocent (say, smaller breast vibrators) to the wacky and wild (nipple clamps, nipple jewellery and electronic “suckers”). Feel free to check out our Nipple and Breast category of Women’s Toys if you may need a bit of assistance. Remember to start slow with the gentlest toys first, so that you don’t scare your partner off or hurt her sensitive spots by accident. Some clamps are very sharp and are not for newcomers to sex toys. Your best bets are suckers, vibrators or little plastic teasers.

Regardless of what you choose, remember the breasts! These are the fun bags you’ve been staring at for so long…it’s time to appreciate them properly!

Choosing from all of the adult toys available on the market today can be overwhelming at times. Everyone has his or her own personal tastes in terms of stimulation, particularly when it comes to the “motion of the ocean”—the features of a vibrator. One person’s favourite could well be a dud for you and vice versa.

The Most Popular Swan Selections

A great new line of adult toys on the scene are the range of Swan Vibrators. There are currently nine different Swan Vibes available to choose from, so there really is something for everyone. Sophisticated and sensual, all Swan toys come in a sexy pink shade and are made from ultra-hygienic silicone. They are waterproof for bath time fun, making them all you could want from a quality vibrator.

The Royal Swan is a vibrator standing at 8.5 inches of pure pleasure. Rotation and vibration are the name of the game with this toy. This is the only toy in the line that’s body rotates to stimulate your G-spot and clitoris. It is rechargeable, and sure to outlast you with 14 hours of pleasure on a single charge. Many users liken this toy to the Rabbit vibrators, though some say the clitoris really gets the “royal” treatment with this toy’s extremely soft and flexible head.

The Trumpeter Swan vibrator is the first design in this collection. The toy’s look is reminiscent of a swan, with a long elegant neck, but this swan will have you busting out in song. This toy was made to stimulate the G-spot, though it can also be used on the clitoris due to its soft body and out of the way buttons.

If you want to strengthen those Kegel muscles while enjoying some good vibrations then look no further than the Swan Clutch. This toy is unique in the fact that you can actually increase the speed, without using your hands! Work those muscles by squeezing the toy and the Squeeze Technology boosts the speed due to the pressure! You can also use the toy for clitoral stimulation as well. With 14 hours of use between charges, you can surely get one great “workout”!

Other Swan Vibrators for Sale

The Whooper Swan has two motors on one side, which provide simultaneous stimulation, and reaches more erogenous zones. The smooth silicone buttons on the device allow for easier operation. Meanwhile, the Tundra Swan has a vibrator located in both the “North and South” pole, meaning it can be used in two different ways and directions.

The Swan Princess has two strong motors and something extra—a contoured neck, which provides a greater degree of pleasure. The neck is also flexible, which allows for easier penetration and orgasm. The Black Swan toy has two vibrating tips at adjacent sides, and this allows the curves to have more impact. The Silver Swan, on the other hand, has accentuated curves with two motors that run extra fast and extra hard.

Lastly, the Mute Swan has the same power and speed as the other vibrators, but pleasures you with less noise and with a special “pointy tip” that allow for either clitoral or vaginal stimulation.

All of these vibrators, available at KinkyMinx, can provide multiple hours of multiples! What are you waiting for? Learn to love the swan!

Why Do Modern Vibrators Work So Well?

Today’s vibrators are ingeniously made and are designed from a sex therapist’s point of view.  There are two major spots for women during sex that require direct stimulation.  These two most famous zones of the erogenous zones diagram are the clitoris and the G-spot, or for the science buffs out there: the Gräfenberg spot, which is located within the anterior of the vaginal canal.  A man or woman may be able to locate this patch of ribbed rough tissue (which feels like a raspberry) by finger insertion.

G-spot vibrators are designed to reach this spot, based (on average) on where most women say the area is located.  Bear in mind that many women are not aware of where the spot is or how to stimulate it properly.  Voila, enter the G-spot vibrator!  While there is no universal law that suggests every woman responds to G-spot stimulation (in fact, some sexologists and therapists argue its existence) women who do respond to this stimulation are enthusiastic believers.

Superior Quality Vibrators Combine Power and Innovative Design

The best-designed G-spot vibrators consist of two parts; first, a penis-like shaped dildo that enters into the vagina (and that vibrates or rotates with battery control) and a softer, clitoral stimulating knob that also vibrates.  The Rabbit vibrator was the unique toy design that innovated the industry in the 1990s.  Additionally, effective G-spot vibrators must be slightly angled so that they reach the G-spot without causing discomfort or requiring special positioning.  A relatively new trend in vibrators, that is very effective according to orgasming users, is to make the head of the phallus thicker, even beyond that of a normal size penis.  This not only simulates realistic entry, but also provides the sensation of a larger entry.

The average vibrator is over 20 Centimetres long (in its entirety) and about 3.5 to 4 Centimetres thick. But they do come in all shapes and sizes to suit your needs.  There is a wide variety of vibrators available, and only each individual user can determine what really works.  It is vital that newcomers to sex toys, particularly a woman who has never had an orgasm or who has very weak ones, experiment with a vibrator to see what type of stimulation causes the most intense reaction.

When looking at a G-spot vibrator, notice the number of speeds the unit operates at, as well as any special rotating action, multispeed and multifunction capabilities.  The G-spot vibrator is the fastest and easiest way to have an orgasm, but don’t take our word for it, see for yourself if you please! It’s also a must-have educational adult toy, of great interest to single women and married couples alike.

You can always check out our catalogue and narrow down what you may be after using our awesome search ability functions on the left hand side. After all, our aim is to be your one stop premium adult shop.

From Dildo to Vibrator—The Painful Origins

First, technology had to grow.  Therefore, we surpassed ages of dildos made out of stone (ouch), wood, leather and other unsexy objects.  Primitive names for these toys included “olisbos” and “dilettos.”  It wasn’t until humankind first invented the idea of the “comfortable” sex toy, that vibrators could actually be studied, theorized and introduced.  Original dildos or “dilettos” were still grating to the skin, even after the discovering of sexual lubricant (or olive oil, to be precise).

It wasn’t until the Victorian Era that comfy dildos were first introduced into hush-hush society.  Rubber dildos debuted in the 1850s, and not too long after, mechanical vibrators were introduced.  We know what you’re thinking!  “Are you saying that Victorian society was actually that horny and were hiding their kinks behind those long queenly dresses?”

Actually, your suspicion is well founded. These dildos were made, not really for the pleasure of women, but for the treatment of women suffering from female “hysteria.”  The recommended treatment for this alarming case of mental dysfunction?  An orgasm!  A rather brilliant deduction, we say!

The First Vibrators—O.K. for Women but Made for a Man

The first vibrator was actually powered by steam, and was meant only to take some pressure off the doctor who would give hysterical female patients manual genital massages. Interesting no? By the early 1900s, the first electromechanical vibrator was introduced, and it wouldn’t be until the 1960s that a cordless vibrator debuted.

Of course, by the 1900s, society let up on women a bit, and dildos and vibrators began appearing in women’s magazines and in erotic films.  The 1940s and onward brought an age of conservatism to society, which almost ended in the 1960s, but went on until at least the 1980s, when many women and men legitimized adult products for modern lovers.

Now to the age of the vibrator boom! Today, vibrators come in a variety of shapes, styles, and mechanical designs.  Some vibrators have a rather basic motion of constant shaking/vibrating, while others actually have multifunctional capabilities, including rotation and thrusting.  The Rabbit Vibrator of the 1990s was a great teacher, and allowed women and couples to experiment with simultaneous clitoral and vaginal (and G-spot) orgasms.  The mainstream media, including female-friendly shows like Sex and the City, also played a part in introducing sex toys to the mainstream.

It is well known (around these parts) that only 30% of all women can achieve orgasm with only intercourse.  Often times, women cannot orgasm at all during certain sexual positions which do allow direct clitoral access.  This is why the vibrator, especially the dual action vibrators, are so handy.  Hopefully at KinkyMinx, we have enlightened you just that little bit when it comes to the history of a certain few of our loves. Thankfully, today you don’t have to get a prescription…or ask for a doctor’s busy hands just to get some kinky fun!

Ancient Dildo Secrets

Believe it or not, dildos actually date back well before modern civilization started.  Don’t believe the myth that sex and sexual expression didn’t exist before the 1960s.  No sir, there is a great deal of evidence that shows us that our great, great, great, great (and many more) grandfathers and grandmothers were horny old toads in their day.  The first “dildo” on record (that is an object used for sexual pleasure) actually dates back to Upper Paleolithic period.  That’s right, before cavemen and women learned how to speak modern languages, they were getting busy!

Some scientists believe that ancient artefacts, which look like poor quality batons, were actually masturbation aids.  “Looking at the size, shape and…explicit symbolism,” Archaeologist Timothy Taylor states, “It seems disingenuous to avoid the most obvious interpretation.”  So there you have it, the first physical evidence of cave woman (or man) masturbation dates back to some 30,000 years ago!

Fine Dildo Art and Other Erotic Witticisms

Even in fairly recent historical times, say the Greek and Roman empires, there is clear of evidence of many phallus-shaped objects being preserved through history.  There is also archaeological proof of Egyptian sex toys.  While we might be quick to identify these objects as tools related to an obscure sex worship religion, remember that for many centuries (and still today) sex and spirituality were often combined into one favourite pastime.

Previous generations of humankind were not only fond of sex, but very unashamed of it, and even put their favourite dildos into legitimate works of art.  Greek vase art showcases dildos being used in an orgy, as well as in female solitary pleasure. They were on the right track we think! Another instance of ancient dildo art comes to us in the form of a vase depicting the dildo’s use in a threesome.  (The book titled “Athenian Red Figure Vases: the Archaic Period” details many ancient findings)  This case is dated back to B.C. times, meaning well before most mainstream religions were founded.  There are also references to dildos in Lysistrata, a B.C. comedy by Aristophanes, and of course that jolly old perv William Shakespeare, in The Winter's Tale.

It’s quite easy to read the message of our forefathers—lighten up!  There is no reason to be shy or ashamed about dildos, vibrators, rubber dongs and other sex toys.  When you think about it, there is clearly nothing wrong with toys.  And sex is a marvellous thing when it’s done right.  So then, a “sex toy” is perhaps the most exciting invention since sliced bread!

The only thing that has really changed about dildos from back then to now, is the quality of the merchandise and the hygienic properties of these adult toys. And let’s not forget the functionality off course. They are far more effective, clean and discreet now than they ever have been!

We have plenty more to say about sex toys, so stay tuned for Part II of our Sex Toys Anthology in the next coming weeks on the KinkyMinx Blog!

In general, it is best to eat healthy foods (think veggies and fruits) rather than enjoy an abundance of junk food.  If you are eating healthy and still don’t feel the same fire, why not try an aphrodisiac?  Aphrodisiacs are not medically proven, but they work wonders for some lovers who are more than happy to pass along the secret.  Don’t fret now…we’re not going to recommend anything gross like tiger penis or goat testicles! Here’s a quick and interesting list of some foods you can pick up at your local Woolies or Coles.

These 10 common foods will serve you just as well!

1. Ginger

Ginger increases blood circulation in the genital area, which is precisely what Viagra and all those supplements do for you.  Furthermore, many believe ginger has an arousing aroma.

2. Chocolate

You may know that every woman loves chocolate…but do you know why?  Chocolate contains “love chemicals” anandamide, phenylethylamine and tryptophan.  Simply put, they help to release dopamine in your brain.  This is the same chemical that helps bring along orgasm.

3. Chilli

Chilli pods contain capsaicin, a chemical that releases endorphins, which some say contribute much to sexual appetite and pleasure.

4. Walnut

This nut helps keep your blood flow fast and flowing, and excellent vascular health helps to intensify orgasms and increase sex drive.

5. Avocados

This fruit is high in B6, which helps to regulate the thyroid gland and the release of those good hormones.

6. Bananas

Bananas are not only shaped suggestively but also help men to produce testosterone and to keep up their stamina.

7. Porridge

No wonder granny was so fertile…she was a demon in the sack, and that may be all thanks to porridge.  This healthy food improves prostate health, contributing to healthy semen, and also works as a general libido enhancer.

8. Nutmeg

Nutmeg has shown some promise of having an aphrodisiacal effect on lab mice. Hopefully it’s the same for us!

9. Honey

Honey contains the chemical boron, which helps to produce estrogen in women, contributing to overall sexual health.

10.  Figs

Figs have always been associated with sex, since ancient times, and even in numerous biblical references.  Legend is that real life sex goddess Cleopatra ate of figs, and these helped her to keep an insatiable appetite.  To this day, figs are still associated with fertility.

Other natural aphrodisiacs to sample include garlic, fennel, oysters, liquorice and celery.  Indeed, the healthier you and your partner are, the more you get out of sex.  There is no need to drink down strange supplemental drinks, rub anything on your twanger, or go see the doctor for an awkward conversation.  Try to improve your dieting first and make sure to add some of these extras (very discreet ones, at that!) to your grocery bag!